Do Your Children Praise Jesus Christ On Christmas Morning?

Caption says,"I am so glad Jesus came to Earth
to die for me so I can get these nice gifts."

Dearest Mothers,

I hear this all the time now, "Christmas will be here soon!" "I can't believe Christmas is in one week!"
Yes, everyone is excited and scurrying around to prepare for a day to celebrate. Celebrate? What?
Some are actually thinking about the Lord Jesus and celebrate His coming to earth..but how many are actually doing that?
Not many, not many at all, in fact very few actually are thinking about the birth of the Lord Jesus.

How many children wake up Christmas morning and think, "Oh praise GOD, we are celebrating the Lord Jesus' birth today!"
Well if you are honest with yourself to face the truth, you will have to agree with me that for most people Christmas really isn't a celebration of the birth of Jesus Christ, but a celebration of gifts and family get-together.

Some families might slip in a Bible reading in the morning, before they open presents. But when the children open their presents do they say, "Oh thank you Lord Jesus, I'm so glad you came to earth to die for me to save me from hell and destruction!"??? But what do they normally do... LOOK FOR MORE GIFTS!

I am not against families getting together and showering each other with gifts and love, that is wonderful! But when it is done in such a fashion that actually tramples under foot the things that are holy, I object! Making the things of God that are holy a common thing is wrong. The children cannot discern the holy from the profane if the parents can't.

If Christmas affords an opportunity to proclaim to the World that Jesus Christ came to earth to save sinners, great! But wait a minute, how often do you hear this? In Church? And wait a minute again, aren't we suppose to be proclaiming the gospel story..ALL THE TIME?

Please be careful about what you make Christmas into, there are dangerous traps that come with the hoopla of Christmas.
Some would like to say it's a "Holy day" but what is holy about it? Does God call it holy?

What are we doing to our children when we tell them that we are celebrating the birth of Jesus Christ when all they discover are gifts showered on them? What do you think goes into those small and tender minds? "Christmas-Jesus' birthday-gifts-ME!".
Oh yes, some parents try to turn the tide and teach their children to give to others, but at the same time they are being given gifts too. It goes in a circle.

I know not everyone celebrates Christmas like it's a "Give me, what can I get" day... but again please be careful. How are your children being influenced?

Consider searching the roots and customs of Christmas. . . it might surprise you.

I Want The Best For My Child

The Best For my Child?
Time, Love, Prayer and Obedience to God!

I want the best for my child. The very best for him is to teach him the way of the Lord Jesus Christ. The very best for him is having Parents that will listen and obey God in their living and in training him. God has made it very clear how to raise a child, there is no need for confusion. Obey God, do what He says in His Word. The Lord says: "But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you."(Mat 6:33) That is clear instruction isn't it? In everything that arises in life and also at the beginning of each day, seek God, call upon the Lord Jesus Christ, repent of any known sin. Jesus will give help and strength if you ask Him. Meditate upon His Word, pray often to Him. Ask Him to show you any selfish areas in your life that need to "die". Dieing to self is an important part of being an obedient child of God. Jesus gives clear instruction about dieing and denying self:

"And he said to them all, If any man will come after me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross daily, and follow me. For whosoever will save his life shall lose it: but whosoever will lose his life for my sake, the same shall save it. For what is a man advantaged, if he gain the whole world, and lose himself, or be cast away?"(Luke 9:23-25)

These are just two verses that give clear instruction to us and of course the Bible is filled with instructions and guidance for us. Why not teach these things to my children? They are capable of learning and understanding. I don't want to limit my growing child's mind with simple silly entertaining activities for tools of learning, but rather with the sincere milk of the Word of God!

The Lord Jesus Christ brought me to faith in Him and repentance of my sins, washed my sins away with His shed blood and saved me. He gave me faith in my heart that God raised Jesus from the dead. He saved my soul from the wrath of God that I deserve. He gave me His Holy Spirit and I am His forever. His yoke is easy and His burden is light, I am His servant. I gladly and happily serve Him with the joy He gave me, my joy is full, it is His joy!
It is because I am His that I desire godliness and righteousness for my children. I desire them to be saved and be godly. Therefore, I want to do right and raise them according to God's Word. Through the guidance of His Spirit, following His Word, I learn how to raise my child. God has given guidelines in His Word with His standards and instructions to follow. He has given to us a type of 'How to' book, He is very clear and forthwith about this subject. I know to trust the Author of this book, He is all knowing, all wise, and perfect, so I take what He says very seriously and desire to follow and obey Him.



I'd like to go through a few verses of this wonderful guide Book and talk about them. Here are some of my thoughts I'd like to share:

My children are given to me by God to raise them for Him. My husband and I are responsible in their training to bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord, (Eph 6:4) And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord." Admonition, means: "mild rebuke or warning" in the Greek. It also means "calling attention to".

The verse begins with: "Fathers provoke not your children to to wrath." I believe God addresses the Fathers first because the weight of the responsibility falls on the fathers. Yet, I believe that mothers are also required to follow the same instruction. I am an older women teaching younger women, so it is the mothers I am talking to.

Let's look at ways parents can, "provoke a child to wrath":

Not showing my child respect:

Your child is a person created by God and given to you to train for Him. Keep in mind that children have not yet learned to hide their true nature which sometimes is very ugly. The sobering thing is, we see ourselves, our own nature in them. When we detect an ugly nature in our child it can make us angry, especially if we see ourselves in them. What ever way we respond to them, to correct or discipline, it should be with respect and love for the child.

To be respectful does not mean to ignore or softly chasten a child that is acting in disobedience, for that is not respectful to them at all! Respecting my child means that I love my child enough to be his friend and instruct him with biblical discipline.(Pro 27:6) " Faithful are the wounds of a friend; but the kisses of an enemy are deceitful. " My child is in need of training, what if I hugged him and kissed him when he was naughty? What if I gave him a small rebuke, a little pat on the bottom and a gentle, "No". Am I being a faithful friend to this child whom I love and adore? Think about this, am I a friend or an enemy to my own child?

Oh mothers! Train your dear children the biblical way! If my child is naughty, I will take him to a place away from the rest of the children, make him sit with me and ask him what he did that was naughty. If he is too young to answer, I will tell him, but if not, I will ask him questions until he admits to me that he was naughty. Then after the confession of the disobedience I will ask him again if God has something to say about it, and let him answer, or explain to him what God says. Since he has disobeyed God first: "Children obey your parents in the Lord" (Eph 6:1) I point out to him that disobeying God is very, very bad. Next I will tell my child that God has also given Mommies a command to spank him if he is naughty, I need to obey God too. Here are some scriptures from Proverbs about spanking:

"He that spares his rod hates his son: but he that loves him chastens him betimes,(early)."Proverbs 13:24 , "Foolishness is bound up in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him.",22:15 "Withhold not correction from the child: for if you beat him with a rod he will not die. You shall beat him with a rod And deliver his soul from hell." 23:13+14,"The rod and correction give wisdom: but a child left to himself brings shame to his mother."29:15

When I spank my child using a thin rod, I have him bend over and tell him the number of spanks he is about to be given, say three or more. If he holds still he gets three spanks on his bottom, if he does not hold still more will be added. If the spanking was not given with a good "sting" the child will probably get angry and not sorry. It is very important he knows that a spanking hurts, it's something he does not want to happen again. After the spanking I let him cry a few minutes then ask him if he is sorry for disobeying God and Mommy? If he affirms this, I ask him if he would like to tell God about it to ask for forgiveness. If he is very young I'll help him pray. After him, I pray and give a hug and kiss for comfort, then have my child go directly to anyone he offended to ask for forgiveness.

Yes it takes time, it's not easy. It is very well invested time! The need to spank will come much less frequently as it instills in the child a respect and understanding of the responsibility he has to God in obedience. A well trained child is a delight to be around!

Another aspect of provoking a child to wrath concerns the other sibling. If a mother sees her child being disrespectful to his sibling and does not properly, biblically discipline him,( or allows him to "get by" with it), it will cause deep resentment in the heart of the sibling and a feeling of anger and dis-respect toward the mother. I must also mention that the naughty child will have a sense of dis-respect toward the mother as well and a feeling of insecurity because in his heart of hearts, he does not want to "get away" with being naughty. If I do not biblically train my child, I am cheating my child out of wisdom and knowledge and the fear of the Lord. I am allowing him to be foolish, I am willing for him to go to hell,(Prov. 23:13+14) I am causing my child to feel insecure and angry at me.

Do I love my child enough to chasten him? Better yet, do I love and fear God enough? God says a rod, God says start early, God says do not with-hold it, God says it will give him wisdom and could work to help save him from hell. Do I believe God? If I obey God and follow His commands and rules He is faithful to work in the heart of my child to bring forth an understanding of and fear of God. That is something I long for and want for my child.
You can go to a web search and find out all different aspects and ideas concerning spanking a child. There are some very harsh and angry reactions on this subject. No matter what the outcry might be from those who have their own experiences or ideas, no matter how they might twist and reason, I believe God. Yes, I believe God, He is trust worthy and His guidelines are faultless.

When I take time to discipline my child and do it biblically, I am showing him respect and love.

There are so many other ways of showing respect, they all take time, but well invested time. Here are a few ideas:

Build a friendship with him or her: Reading to him, (especially the Bible and Bible stories), playing games, showing love and affection, looking at him and at his eyes while listening to him when he talks to me, or when I talk to him. Teach him to help me in my house work, or give him responsibilities and show gratitude at his efforts. There are so many ways to build a friendship, which is another way to say, "win his heart!" Biblical discipline will also help you win his heart, because it shows God's love for him. Children feel blessed and happy after a biblical spanking. The discipline cleanses their conscience, assures them of your love and care for them.
It is so very important to incorporate the Lord Jesus in all your activities through-out the day.
Talk of Him, ask God to show you creative ideas how to bring Him into every subject. Point them to Him always.

How much does God want you to talk about Him to your children?

"You shall therefore lay up these words of mine in your heart and in your soul, and you shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes. You shall teach them to your children, talking of them when you are sitting in your house, and when you are walking by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise. You shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates," (Deu 11:18-20)

Dear sweet mothers, I have done this, not perfectly, but a great deal. Oh, there are no words to express the flood of joy that filled my heart as I spoke of Jesus and His wonderful love, incorporating Him into activities, school work, cleaning, playing, walking, gardening and a multitude of other things. Now I talk of Him to everyone! He's the One I want to talk about! My days are full of joy and excitement because of Jesus! Why would I want to go back to plain and boring worldly things? Knowing Jesus Christ in true fellowship with Him is life indeed!

A Mother Can Provoke Her Child To Wrath By Her Disrespect To Her Husband:

Oh mothers! Your children are watching you! What kind of example have you set before them?

Am I respectful to my husband? Do I reverence him in all things?

Ephesians 5:22"Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord." "Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything," ... .."Wives, likewise be submissive to your own husbands..."

Your children are watching you! If I am dis-respectful to my husband in any way, and do not honor him, but then turn and expect my children to honor me, my children can easily be provoked to anger. If they see me talking behind his back, or disregarding things he has asked me to do, how am I setting an example to my children of honor and obedience?

How important is it to God for you to honor your husband?

"Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything," ... .."Wives, likewise be submissive to your own husbands... Ephesians 5:23+24"


Let us fear God and obey Him!

The Story of How God Blessed My Daughter With A Godly Husband.

I cannot but rejoice for what our Lord Jesus Christ has done for my dear daughter Leah. It is an amazing story and I know that many of you have been waiting for this post. I have been anxious to share!

This will be a long post, but it is a wonderful story of how God brought two godly young people together in His way and timing:

It Began:

Last year, 2009, Leah and Michael were considering whether or not they should go to the OSA missions trip that was being held in LasVegas. Michael really wanted to go, Leah was not too interested, but was willing to go if God made a way for them. They had gone to an OSA mission trip 2 years before in Alabama and had been greatly blessed meeting people truly on fire for the Lord Jesus Christ. These are people who, like us, do all they can to reach the lost with the gospel... as well as expose the horrors of abortion and plead for unborn children lives. They decided to pray for the funds and not say anything to anyone about it. They had been reading George Mueller's testimony of God's provisions, and were impressed to only seek God and not man for the funds. The very next day a dear friend walked up to them and offered flight and motel expenses for the trip if they wanted to go!

Mick,(my husband), and I could see it was clearly God's will for them to go and prayed for His will to be done. One day while walking and praying about the trip I asked God again why He wanted them to go when I heard Him speak to my heart. He told me Leah was going to meet her husband while on the missions trip. I didn't expect something like that, but I had such a peace in my heart that it just made me thank Him. I shared this with Mick, but not with anyone else. We both just wondered and resigned it to God and prayed for His will.

Michael and Leah went on the trip and came back being greatly blessed and excited about the opportunities they had been given. Leah didn't say she had met anyone, so it seemed I was wrong about hearing from the Lord. A few days after they came back, Leah told me she had forgotten something that had happened in LasVegas. As Leah and Michael were walking toward a group of people whom were part of OSA, she noticed a young man she had not yet met. As her eyes fell on this young man she heard the Lord Jesus say in her heart, "There is your husband." Leah was so shocked at what she heard and tried to shake it away. Leah is not the type of girl who looks for guys, she has always been very sensitive to keeping herself for the man God has for her. Leah decided to ask Michael to introduce her to this young man, they had a quick hand shake and that was all there was!

When I heard the story from Leah, I got very excited. Leah told the story to Mick and in just a few hours he had them get ready for another missions trip with "Missionaries to the pre-Born" which was being held in Detroit MI. where they thought the young man would also attend. I am sure the Lord moved Mick, we have been careful to look to the Lord for direction in any decision made for Leah and Michael. We felt confident in His leading now. On that trip, the young man was not there. However, during the time in Detroit, Leah and Michael met many wonderful young people on fire for the Lord Jesus. They wanted to keep in touch with them and Face Book seemed to be the most popular way so they made their own accounts. After a few weeks Michael had a friend request from someone he didn't know, but seemed familiar. Leah and Michael both realized at about the same time it was, the young man, and his name was Patrick. Soon afterward Patrick requested Leah to be his friend. Mick and I were very cautious about the whole Face Book thing. If the Lord had not made it so clear to us this young man could very well be the man He had chosen for Leah, we would not have been open to her chatting with him AT ALL! We watched both Leah and Michael's interaction with Patrick. As we checked out Patrick's wall and info, we noticed all his posts and comments were very godly and Biblical. We watched and read all the chats, Patrick was very respectful and kept them wholesome with good questions and answers. As time went on we could see he was not only loving Jesus but also very like-minded as we.

Soon Patrick was contacting Michael through phone calls. I talked with him too and was encouraged by his respectfulness. His conversation always pointed to Jesus and the Bible. Then Patrick asked to come for a visit in December. We live in Northern Wisconsin, snow and cold is a huge factor that time of year. We told him he was welcomed, but just the day before he was to arrive a winter storm hit here and he had to cancel. . .

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Leah's side of the story:

About 2 years ago Leah met a dear couple who are missionaries to Mexico. Leah had been looking for direction from the Lord for her life, she was already 20 years old, she had expected to have met her husband by now. But God was doing a wonderful work in her heart, and she became settled into willingness to not ever get married if the Lord should so will. Please read Leah's post on marriage and get an idea of her thoughts on the subject of marriage at that time.

Leah prayed about whether He would have her as a missionary. She started learning Spanish, and looked into a language school in Mexico. The school teaches Spanish to prospective missionaries as they live in the culture and around the people. While seeking the Lord about it Leah heard the Lord tell her to go learn the Language in Mexico, and then get out and go back home. Leah planned to go January 2010 if the Lord opened the doors for it.

Leah occupied herself at home with work and helping me around the house. We are involved in Pro-Life and gospel work which is also a large part of our lives each week. Leah served her family, sewing Daddy's patches on his work pants, cooking, cleaning, gardening and canning many different types of fruits and tomatoes. Time passed and Leah kept seeking the Lord Jesus, praying about Mexico, and keeping a servants heart. Leah has always blessed me and as she grew older she blessed me not only as a wonderful serving daughter, but also as a dear sister and friend in our Lord Jesus. We shared some wonderful joyful times together with fellowship in our Lord Jesus. I know it was Jesus who gave her the patience to wait on Him and to have such a loving attitude, even when times were difficult.

I hope you take some time and read this post by Leah in her blog, Glorious Hope. It will give you a good idea of her heart for the Lord Jesus: Marriage.
Also to learn more about the trip to LasVegas read this: in Leah's blog. You will see what I mean about her, she was loving Jesus then and she is loving Him now.

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Patrick's side of the story:

Patrick had committed himself to purity and godliness even as a young teen. He kept his eyes and heart for the Lord. At 15 he began to pray for the women God would someday have him marry. He learned to work hard and kept his mind on wholesome and godly things. He kept involved in Pro-life and gospel work which were and are an important to Patrick and his family, going weekly to plead for unborn children and give the gospel at abortion clinics. He worked at various secular jobs and learned what it means to be persecuted for his faith in the Lord Jesus.
Several years ago he noticed there was some property for sale near his parents home. One day as he passed by the property he heard the Lord tell him to buy it. The land would be for him and his own family one day. He obeyed and began and started to improve the property. By the time Patrick turned 23 he felt ready for marriage, and wondered if a girl he and his family had become acquainted with was the right one and he was given permission by her father to court her. He soon realized she was not the right one and was thankful he had not given his heart to her, not even holding her hand. Patrick prayed for direction. As he turned 26 he wondered about another girl he had met through a Ministry group. The friendship with her was very long distant and he prayed continually for direction. About this time Patrick learned OSA was having a Missions out reach in Las Vegas, he was not very interested in going but prayed about it. A friend of his family wanted Patrick to go with him and offered to pay for the trip entirely. Still Patrick was doubtful if he could go because of his job. Amazingly Patrick was given the time off from work with no difficulty, so he realized the Lord wanted him to go.

While at OSA in LasVegas a young man named Michael him came up to meet him, then Michael introduced his sister Leah to him. Patrick was uneasy,wondering, who was this girl and what did she want? He politely shook her hand and then turned and left very quickly, it seemed to him that Leah was chasing him.

When Patrick returned home he remembered Leah and told his family about a girl named Leah that was chasing him at OSA. Patrick wanted to keep himself for the girl God had for him to marry, he didn't want anything to do with a girl who would chase him!
Patrick still wondered if the girl he was keeping a long distance friendship with was the one for him. She was going to be at "Missionaries to the Pre-Born" tour in Detroit MI. and he wanted to go, but things didn't work out with his job. Patrick had a Face Book account and kept in touch with people through it, including his long distant friend who he wondered about. One day he noticed Michael and Leah on Face Book and became "friends". Some where in this frame, the Lord showed Patrick the other girl was not for him. He felt so weary of looking for the right one, so he just threw everything before the Lord and asked Him to show him, he wasn't going to look anymore.

As weeks and months passed Patrick began to notice Leah. He noticed her godliness and love for Jesus. He noticed her respect and clarity in her thoughts and reasoning's. Suddenly he understood, the Lord wanted Leah to be his wife, he felt very sure of it. In Patrick's own words on a chat he said, "Then I started finding myself comparing girls I thought I might be interested in and Leah and still didn't think of it until the Lord just really spoke to me and I asked him could it be you are trying to tell me she is the one? and it was then that the Lord really started guiding me and reminding me of things he had revealed to me during this process that revealed that about Nov. I think end of Oct."

Here are some of the things the Lord reminded Patrick of:

• God had told him several years ago he was going to take his wife to Mexico, learn the language and get out.

• God had put it into his heart to have 12 children to raise for God.

• Once when Patrick had become very sick he dreamed he was married and his wife brought him some food. In his dream his wife looked like Leah.

• There were a few other things that made Patrick understand that Leah was the one...

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Getting back to January of 2010:

Leah kept looking for an opening to go to Mexico, but the door never opened. Now, Patrick decided to re-schedule his visit to Northern Wisconsin. He finally arrived at our home after a very long 14+ hour drive. We all instantly loved Patrick. His love for the Lord Jesus was obvious to us. He and Mick really, "hit it off" and the 3 days Patrick stayed was a joy. Patrick showed great respect to Mick and I, he was kind to Michael and was very respectful to Leah, hardly looking at her. (He told us later how hard it was not to stare at her, let alone just look at her.) , Patrick was very cautious to keep from showing interest in Leah. The second night here, Mick and Patrick sat in the kitchen talking until after 2:00 a.m. At this time Patrick asked Mick if he could court Leah. Mick told him to wait and we would pray about it. He also told him not to say a word to Leah about it. Patrick respected the request and when he had left Leah still had no idea that he was even interested in her. Leah however felt a tug in her heart so she fasted and prayed with a aching heart for several days afterward. Leah kept looking to the Lord, it was her desire to keep her focus on Him and not on Patrick.

Nearly 2 weeks later Mick had a talk with Leah about Patrick, and Mexico. He revealed to her Patrick wanted to court her, and even take her to Mexico some time after they were married. The look on Leah's face was priceless, she was so happy! Mick called Patrick and let him know he could court her. We learned after talking to Mick, Patrick went out to his property and rejoiced in the Lord and unto the Lord for a good long time, thanking Him.

And so. . . began the courtship which lasted for 4 months, and they were married May 29, 2010. During the courtship and Betrothal, with all the visits, phone calls, chats, they remained pure in their relationship. Both had committed to not kissing nor holding hands until they were married. The wedding was beautiful, God honoring and a great blessing. It is such a joy to see two godly young people brought together by God.

This is my account and testimony of Leah's blessing from the Lord. Leah waited on the Lord for many years, she was sure He was going to have her married at 18, but God knew she was not yet ready for Patrick, nor Patrick for her. It is and was all God's timing, which was perfect. They both have been greatly rewarded for their patience and purity. Now we feel as if the heavens have been opened upon us and blessings are being poured on us, Patrick and Leah have announced, they are with child! Blessings and praise to God forever!

Pictures of the Happy Couple

Patrick Visited in January 2010
Leah, Michael and Patrick at the snow trails for snow shoeing

April 2010... Things happened fast! Mick is giving Leah to Patrick for Betrothal.
We knew this was the will of our God!

April 2010, Leah turned 21 a few days after she was betrothed to Patrick.

April 2010 Patrick and Leah very happy!

May 29, 2010! Father and Mother walk Leah down the Isle.


Patrick and Leah exchange vows.

Patrick and Leah, hold hands for the first time and are very happy!


A joyful time!

Michael talking to the newly weds.

Long a waited affection.

What a joyous time!

Patrick and Leah now with child!
Praise our wonderful Lord Jesus Christ!

My Youngest Daughter Was Married This Weekend! What a Joyous Time!

I have not written in this blog for some time now... but there is a reason!
My youngest daughter was married this past weekend, May 29, 2010.Oh what a joyous occasion! The man she married, godly, loving Jesus very much, never gave his heart to another, never kissed nor held hands. Patrick was the man we had prayed for all these years for Leah.
Leah, same as Patrick, both waited on the Lord for their perfect mate, and God brought it forth!

I am anxious to tell this story but haven't yet the time. Soon, I hope, I should be able to sit down and write it all out. What a wonderful testimony it is and I don't want anyone to miss it!
I couldn't wait to place some pictures of the bride and groom and I hope to place more later of the actual wedding but for now... here are some!

Leah getting ready with allot of help!

Brides Maids

Picture Time Before the Wedding

Patrick and Leah, A Very Happy Couple!

Thine, O LORD is the greatness, and the power, and the glory,
and the victory, and the majesty: for all that is in the heaven and
in the earth is thine; thine is the kingdom, O LORD, and thou art
exalted as head above all.
-- 1 Chronicles 29:11

FATHER, I KNOW THAT ALL MY LIFE

FATHER, I KNOW THAT ALL MY LIFE

Father, I know that all my life
Is portioned out for me,
And the changes that are sure to come
I do not fear to see;
But I ask Thee for a present mind
Intent on pleasing Thee.

I ask Thee for a thoughtful love,
Through constant watching wise,
To meet the glad with joyful smiles,
And to wipe the weeping eyes;
And a heart at leisure from itself,
To soothe and sympathize.

I would not have the restless will
That hurries to and fro,
Seeking for some great thing to do
Or secret thing to know;
I would be treated as a child,
And guided where I go.

Wherever in the world I am,
In whatsoe’er estate,
I have a fellowship with hearts
To keep and cultivate;
And a work of lowly love to do
For the Lord on Whom I wait.

So I ask Thee for daily strength,
To none that ask denied,
And a mind to blend with outward life
While keeping at Thy side;
Content to fill a little space,
If Thou be glorified.

And if some things I do not ask
In my cup of blessing be,
I would have my spirit filled the more
With grateful love to Thee,
More careful, not to serve Thee much,
But to please Thee perfectly.

There are briers besetting every path
That call for patient care;
There is a cross in every lot,
And an earnest need for prayer;
But a lowly heart that leans on Thee
Is happy anywhere.

In a service which Thy will appoints
There are no bonds for me;
For my inmost heart is taught “the truth”
That makes Thy children “free.”
And a life of self renouncing love
Is a life of liberty.

~Anna L. Waring

Are Your Children Obedient and Happy? Part 5-Disorders In Children

Are Your Children Obedient and Happy?
Part 1
Part 2

Part 3
Part 4

Oh mothers! Let us be godly and refuse the worldly perspective that is being offered by the "Experts" that claim to know the answers to our child's problems.

Let me ask you, how can they know? Who are these people that lift themselves up above the parents and claim to know better? They may be highly educated in the worldly philosophies of child psychology and development, but do they live a godly life? Do they hide the word of God in their hearts? Have they raised godly children? Are they experts in His eyes? Are they mixing the ways of the world with the precepts of the Creator, corrupting and confusing?

The sad, sad thing about this is that too many parents have abandoned their jobs as parents and have turned to pleasures and entertainment for themselves. The resulting conditions from that behavior are confused and disobedient children, many with disorders. The parents are incapable of helping them because they have abandoned them in their hearts. Since this has happened, the Community, State and Government have been obliged to step in and "help"... thus we have labels of disorders. Many are true disorders, since the child has been raised in a disorderly way. Thus the "Experts" have risen up and proclaimed to know better than the parents... in some cases they may know better, but not in a godly way.

I am alarmed at the multitude of parents who claim to be true Christians and say they know the Lord. Their children reflect the reality of what the parents truly are, revealed by their child training and lifestyle. Children mirror their parents.

Fathers and mothers who want godliness in their children, must first be godly. A godly example is vital for your children.

Let us remember that God is merciful and just, He is very compassionate to us. If we have failed in raising our children for Him, there is still hope when we seek Him and pray for mercy on our children. If your children are still young and exhibiting disorders, I would like to give you some examples of disorders and possible help for them from Scripture.

Here is an example of a disorder called:

( From: Medline Plus)...
Oppositional Defiant Disorder:

"kids misbehave some times, but behavior disorders go beyond mischief and rebellion. With behavior disorders, your child or teen has a pattern of hostile, aggressive or disruptive behaviors for more than 6 months."

Warning signs can include:

• Harming or threatening themselves, other people or pets
• Damaging or destroying property
• Lying or stealing
• Not doing well in school, skipping school
• Early smoking, drinking or drug use
• Early sexual activity
• Frequent tantrums and arguments
• Consistent hostility towards authority figures

How sad! A disorder that shows human nature unrestrained and untrained! What has happened to these children? An accurate assessment of this "Disorder" is, Leniency-- these children have had a strong will since birth and the parents have not trained nor disciplined them according to God's Word. The parents have shown great leniency to them and allowed them to: misbehave at times, harm others, damage property, lie and steal, not work, eat what they want, watch movies and T.V. that have sex and/or violent scenes, allowed arguments and tantrums, and have been a bad example of respect for authority. It is very clear in God's Word that we reap what we sow... if children are given free range to do what they feel like, it will always lead to sin and sorrow for them and their parents.

The rod and reproof give wisdom, but a child left to himself brings shame to his mother. (Proverbs 29:15)

"Parents, in educating their children, must consider, 1. The benefit of due correction. They must not only tell their children what is good and evil, but they must chide them, and correct them too, if need be, when they either neglect that which is good or do that which is evil. If a reproof will serve without the rod, it is well, but the rod must never be used without a rational and grave reproof; and then, though it may be a present uneasiness both to the father and to the child, yet it will give wisdom. Vexatio dat intellectum - Vexation sharpens the intellect. The child will take warning, and so will get wisdom"-Matthew Henry

"but a child left to himself brings his mother to shame; a child that has the reins thrown upon his neck, is under no restraint of parents, but suffered to take his own way, is left to do his own will and pleasure; he does those things which his parents are ashamed of, one as well as another; though the mother is only mentioned, being generally most fond and indulgent, and most criminal in suffering children to have their own wills and ways; and so has the greater share in the shame that follows on such indulgences."- John Gill

"Left to himself - The condition of one who has been pampered and indulged. The mother who yields weakly is as guilty of abandoning the child she spoils, as if she cast him forth; and for her evil neglect, there shall fall upon her the righteous punishment of shame and ignominy."- Barnes

Folly is bound up in the heart of a child, but the rod of discipline drives it far from him. (Proverbs 22:15)

"Pro 22:15 Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child.... That is, sin, the greatest of all folly; this is naturally in the heart of man; it is in the heart of a child, it is in him from his infancy; it is bound in his heart, it is rooted and riveted in him, being conceived in sin, and shaped in iniquity; it is what cleaves close to him, and he has a strong affection for and desire after: the imagination of man's heart is evil from his youth (Gen_8:21); so that he is not easily brought off of sin, or becomes wise...

but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him; the rod used by parents, for the correction of sin and folly, is a means of making children wise, and of restraining the folly that is bound up in them; and of reclaiming them from those sinful ways, which the folly of their hearts leads them to, and so in some measure of driving it far from them."- John Gill


Another Disorder is:

(From:National Institute of Mental Health)...
Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder, OCD:


"Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder, OCD, is an anxiety disorder and is characterized by recurrent, unwanted thoughts (obsessions) and/or repetitive behaviors (compulsions). Repetitive behaviors such as handwashing, counting, checking, or cleaning are often performed with the hope of preventing obsessive thoughts or making them go away. Performing these so-called "rituals," however, provides only temporary relief, and not performing them markedly increases anxiety."

Signs & Symptoms:

"People with OCD may be plagued by persistent, unwelcome thoughts or images, or by the urgent need to engage in certain rituals. They may be obsessed with germs or dirt, and wash their hands over and over. They may be filled with doubt and feel the need to check things repeatedly"

How sad! What would make a child behave like that? If the child is exposed to things that are very wicked, such as immoral movies, T.V. , and books, perverted people, music of the world, witch-craft, the occult, and unrestrained play with children involved with such things... it would be of NO surprise that a child would have a disorder like this.

We as parents are responsible before God to be sure our children are not exposed to wicked things. Children have very tender minds, if they are exposed to evil things their minds are not able to bear, they will behave in extreme ways. This is a disorder that has been created by the parents or those in authority over this child.

Mothers, Fear God! ... He will hold us accountable in how we train up our children!

Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it. (Proverbs 22:6)

"Pro 22:6 Train up a child in the way he should go,.... As Abraham trained up his children, and those born in his house, in the way of the Lord, in the paths of justice and judgment; which are the ways in which they should go, and which will be to their profit and advantage; see Gen_14:14; and which is the duty of parents and masters in all ages, and under the present Gospel dispensation, even to bring such who are under their care in the nurture and admonition of the Lord, Eph_6:4; by praying with them and for them, by bringing them under the means of grace, the ministry of the word, by instructing them in the principles of religion, teaching them their duty to God and man, and setting them good examples of a holy life and conversation; and this is to be done according to their capacity, and as they are able to understand and receive the instructions given them: "according to the mouth of his way", as it may be literally rendered; as soon as he is able to speak or go, even from his infancy; or as children are fed by little bits, or a little at a time, as their mouths can receive it."-John Gill

Prov.22:6 ...even when he is old he will not depart from it.

"You shall love the LORD your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your might. And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise. You shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes. You shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates." (Deuteronomy 6:5-9)

"For the grace of God that brings salvation has appeared to all men, Teaching us that, denying ungodliness and worldly lusts, we should live sensibly, righteously, and godly, in this present world; Looking for that blessed hope, and the glorious appearing of the great God and our Savior Jesus Christ; Who gave himself for us, that he might redeem us from all iniquity, and purify unto himself a people for his own, zealous of good works." (Titus 2:11-14)

Dear mothers, if you teach your children diligently the way of God and the way he should go... He will not depart from it!


Another disorder is called:

(From: Children's Hospital Boston)...
Generalized Anxiety Disorder:

"The following are the most common symptoms of GAD in children and adolescents. However, each child may experience symptoms differently. Symptoms may include":

• many worries about things before they happen
• many worries about friends, school, or activities
• constant thoughts and fears about safety of self and/or safety of parents
• refusing to go to school
• frequent stomach aches, headaches, or other physical complaints
• muscle aches or tension
• sleep disturbance
• excessive worry about sleeping away from home
• clingy behavior with family members
• feeling as though there is a lump in the throat
• fatigue
• lack of concentration
• being easily startled
• irritability
• inability to relax

It is very sad indeed to be a parent of a child that won't trust you. This is learned behavior, that comes from some experience or incident that causes fear and lack of trust. It can also come from parents that are very busy, and do not take time with their children, or they keep the children too busy. Children need quiet times to think and learn, to be still. Too much business in the home can cause this disorder in children. The child that has this disorder has not been taught to trust in God, nor to turn to Him in all things. Not only does a child like this need to be taught to trust the Lord but this child needs to learn the fear of the Lord!

The fear of the LORD leads to life, and whoever has it rests satisfied; he will not be visited by harm. (Proverbs 19:23)

"Pro 19:23 The fear of the Lord leads to life,.... "Godliness", of which the fear of the Lord is a principal part, has "the promise of this life and that to come", 1Ti_4:8, the fear of God is the beginning of a spiritual life; and it leads to eternal life, as Gersom observes, and is connected with it; and he that hath it shall abide satisfied; with his lot and portion in this life; with the good things of it he has, being content therewith and "godliness with contentment is great gain", 1Ti_6:6, such a man has enough; he has all things in a spiritual sense; he is full of the blessings of goodness; he is blessed with all spiritual blessings; his mouth is satisfied, and his mind is filled with good things; and so he rests and abides night after night, and day after day; he shall not be visited with evil; nothing shall hurt him; all his afflictions, his worst things, his evil ones: work together for his good; and they shall never separate from the love of God, nor anything that befalls him in this life, Rom_8:28; see Psa_91:10."- John Gill

There are other disorders that I would like to address, and will have to do that in next post.

God bless you dear mothers that are diligently raising your children for Jesus Christ our God!